of us don't like to think about death, therefore we are unprepared
for the death of a loved one. This makes it harder to face.
However, there are healthy ways to work through grief. With time, the loss can become more bearable and life can be fulfilling once again. We must understand that grief is a normal process, and that people express grief in different ways. They also go through the process of grief and coping with grief at their own pace. So although it seems that it will never get better, with time and the loving concern of those around us, we will get better.
Losing someone changes our life. Its not bad to ask for help. Don't go through grief alone. You can join a bereavement support group, see your religious advisor, or talk to local mental health associates.
Healing grief takes time. Allow yourself to grieve. Don't make major decisions rashly. Express your feelings, and keep up your faith. Keep your loved one's memory alive by keeping a photo album or scrapbook. Save keepsakes, share memories with friends, complete a project that your loved one began, and set aside time to think.
Life goes on -- yours can too. Even though your loved one is gone, they can still be a part of your life. Cherish your memories, and let yourself heal and grow.
are some selected books and videos about coping with death, that
you can order through Turner-Myers Funeral Home.
|YOU AND YOUR GRIEF - Edgar N. Jackson|
|HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE - Melba Colgrove, Ph.D., Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., Peter McWilliams|
|EARLY WINTER Learning to Live, Love and Laugh Again After a Painful - Loss Howard Bronson|
|AFTER THE FLOWERS HAVE GONE Coping with the Problems of the Widowed - Bea Decker|
|BEREAVED CHILDREN AND TEENS A Support Guide for Parents and Professionals - Earl A. Grollman|
COURAGE TO GRIEVE, THE COURAGE TO GROW:
Judy Tatelbaum, M.S.W., Psychotherapist, educator and author is nationally known for her inspirational work leading people through the grieving process. In the video she teaches you to recognize the stages of grief, to develop tools for healing and to feel complete with grief. (45 minutes)
IN THE DARK:
From Disney Educational Products. Austin is going on his yearly visit to his grandparent's farm, like every summer before...but this year he is greeted only by his grandmother. For Austin, the place is filled with memories that, at first, bring sadness and disappointment. This sensitive program portrays the special relationship that develops between grandson and grandmother as they learn together how to fill the emotional and physical void left by Grandpa's death. Suggested Audience: Bereaved Persons, Junior High/High School, Youth Organizations, Community Groups, School or Public Libraries. (27 minutes)
STORY: A TEEN SUICIDE:
Each year, an estimated 500,000 teenagers try to take their own lives. Of the 5,000 who succeed, most give one or more warnings of their intention. "David's Story" presents as in-depth study of one teen's suicide to help students recognize the critical warning signals of suicidal behavior. This program assures viewers that a suicidal impluse is likely to pass if the potential victim can get through the crisis period and get help for his/her problem. Suggested Audience: Junior High/High School/College, PTA Meetings, Adult Education, Service
Clubs. (28 minutes)
FOR FRIENDS OF THE BEREAVED:
This program was developed for the many people who ask, "What should I say at the funeral home?" or "What can I do to help?" The tape offers advice - what to do, what not to do - when a friend loses a loved one. In producing the program, we talked to individuals, who had actually lost a loved one, about their feelings. They discuss what helped them during the time of the funeral and, also what hurt. "Advice" also acquaints the audience with the symptoms of grief, enabling them to know what they might expect from their bereaved friend. Suggested Audience: Support Groups, Women's or Service Clubs, High School or Adult Classes, In-House Training, Clergy Groups, and Senior Citizen Groups.
A special program, designed to help people understand the intense nature of one's grief-related emotions. It explains that the fear, anger and guilt often felt following a death are all normal healty reactions to what has occurred. Only by accepting these feelings and expressing them will we begin to recover from our grief. "Feelings" is appropriate for showing to bereaved individuals and groups, bereavement support groups and in general community education settings. Dr. Earl Grollman, noted author and lecturer, has said, "If it's mentionable...it's manageable." It is our hope that "Feelings" will help make grief and the emotions of grief better understood and therefore, more manageable for the individual. (11 minutes)
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